Every single one of us has a little voice in our head – that negative inner voice – telling us bad things about ourselves that aren’t true. Some of us are better at ignoring that negative talk than others. Some days, for all of us, it is hard to ignore. Especially those days when everything seems to go wrong. I remember one day in particular.


Years ago, I interviewed for a job I really wanted. When I got the call that I got the job, I was elated! She told me I was the top candidate, above and beyond all the others. I did a happy dance and waited for the official offer letter to arrive in my email. I waited and waited – all day. The email never came.

At the very end of the day, the hiring leader called me back. She was crying and told me that she had offered the job to the wrong candidate. It was a name mix-up. It was humorous to me that I had to console her. But, when I hung up, I felt like crap. I remembered what she had said when she offered me the job. The other candidate was above and beyond me. That is all I could think about. I felt like such a loser.

It took everything I had to get back on the horse and apply for any job again. I’m not joking when I say it took me several months to get back on that dark horse. But, I did it. I’m happy to say, I got a better job that I loved.

These kind of crumby things happen to everyone. This is an important fact to remember. A more important fact to remember is that these kind of things happen for a reason. They make us stronger and test our resolve. Don’t let it get you down! I found out later I REALLY didn’t want the job I didn’t get. I found out later the job I DID get catapulted my career in ways I could never have dreamed of.

Check out this video by Marie Forleo, who happens to be the Queen of Inspiration for me these days. I love her spunk!

And, if you have a moment, tell me about your crumby experience and how you overcame it in the comments below. It will inspire everyone!

– Heather McBride, SPHR
Resume Writer, Recruiter and Human Resources Consultant