Have you ever been fired from your job? Or, laid off? Or, whatever the boss man told you that created an “opportunity” to find another job. I have and so have many people I know. It is hard to get over a sudden change that you may have expected or not expected, especially when it hits the wallet and impacts your ability to feed the kids.
When you make the decision to quit your job, you feel more in control and hopefully have a plan. But, when someone else makes the change for you, you feel out of control and unsure of what the next steps are. Sometimes, if the change comes at a bad time, it feels like your whole world is crashing down and there isn’t a light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes, it changes your whole perspective and makes you wonder if you have a grasp of reality and if you can trust yourself. This lack of self-trust affects the job search, right?
I’m here to say, let all the doubt go. It has never come to pass that a change didn’t happen in my life for a very good reason, even when the change initially looked like a nightmare.
THINGS I’VE LEARNED FROM LOSING A JOB
It was time for me to leave. Yes, it was. Either, I didn’t want to be there anymore and they took care of something I wasn’t willing to do for myself. Or, they didn’t want me anymore. Why would I want to be somewhere I wasn’t wanted?
It has nothing to do with my self-worth or my ability to do a good job. What someone else thinks of me has nothing to do with me or what I am really capable of. The job just wasn’t the right fit. Maybe it was in the beginning. But, in the end, me, the job and the company weren’t right for each other. It was mutual, whether it looks like it or not. That’s all there is to it.
There is another job out there that IS a good fit. I take a personal inventory of my strengths and my areas of opportunity and I look for the job that matches my skills and career aspirations. If I don’t have all the skills, I figure out how to get them. I can volunteer to get those skills. I can find a job that is willing to train me.
Sometimes I have to take a job that isn’t exactly what I want in order to pay the bills. But, I keep looking for the perfect job, even after I accept the not so perfect job. Or, I keep learning the skills I need to learn and then look for the perfect job, while I am doing the not so perfect job.
I have learned a lot more than this, but these are the most important that come to mind this morning. Do you want to add anymore insights for our readers below?
– Heather McBride, SPHR
Professional Resume Writer, Recruiter, HR Consultant